Divorce is not always the sad event that people that make it out to be. For those that have endured years of physical or mental abuse or have just had enough of their spouse, divorce is relief. It is a chance at a new beginning. It is a chance to reinvent yourself and learn new things about yourself. And what better way to celebrate your divorce then with a party! There are a few steps you should take to make your party a raging success.
First off, make sure everyone you invite knows that this is a fun upbeat party to celebrate your divorce. It is not a night to hash out what ifs and what could have been. There is no pity party or need to walk on egg shells. The divorce party is a chance for you and your friends to celebrate your single life! Make sure that they know that you are not looking for a blind date or to be set up or fixed, you just want to have fun and enjoy being single.
The next step for a successful divorce party is being considerate with the guest list. Even if your ex-sister-in-law is your best friend, it's probably not a wise idea to invite her, especially if your spouse is grieving the end of your marriage. Keep your list to a few close friends who understand your situation and who you want to reconnect with. Avoid inviting mutual friends and acquaintances who know both you and your ex-partner. Be considerate of his feelings and don't flaunt the fact that you are happy while he is not.
Plan a theme for your party, with a popular one being the future. Don't sit around moping, even if you want to. You can throw a great party and have some games and goal setting. Where do you want to go from here? You can even hire a palm reader to come in and give a reading, or some other type of event. Remember that a divorce is not an end; it is the beginning of a new life. You don't have to be sad just because other people think you should. That's why throwing a divorce party is so much fun!
Feel good about yourself, before the party go out and buy a new outfit, try out that recipe you've been wanting to for all your guests. Do something different to make yourself happy and optimistic. Avoid scoping out a partner at your party; you will probably regret it later. And while some wine or champagne is a nice way to celebrate, avoid consuming too much alcohol. Remember that alcohol is a depressant and you may think or feel things that you'll regret in the morning.
Divorce can be a wonderful experience, that's why you are throwing a divorce party to begin with. Sure, you might get a few odd stares at first, but keep your head up and stay positive. Not everyone will understand your desire to throw a party, but it's about you, not them!
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